Few things are as sad and pitiful as a broken woman (or man, for that matter). Many women that have suffered some form of physical abuse by a man have never returned to their former selves. Many of them are timid, jumpy, scared - and scarred - even years later. The physical contact that happened between her and Chris Brown, which gained new fuel last night as pictures of her face were released, have upped the ante on domestic abuse counselors - and victims - to come out now or forever hold their peace.
Truth be told some people get accustomed to the violence, but they don't remain the same. Ever again. And in RiRi's case, she still wasn't the one who called police. A passerby, witnessing the blood fly, was actually the reason why this is now a public spectacle.
The marks will all heal physically, but will she be emotionally scarred?
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Abuse always leaves an emotional scar. How can it not? I don't really like the way that the public is pushing her to "speak out", because all everyone wants is to see how badly she was beaten, which I guess we now do since seeing the photos. You can encourage and support a victim in getting help and being able to safely be removed from the situation, but you can't tell someone how to handle their own pain and that they should now not only be their own voice, but also be the voice of ALL abused women, that only adds to the suffering. And as you pointed out, that could take years.
February 20, 2009 at 12:48 PMYOu make a good point. Each person arrives at their healing point differently. She can't be a spokesperson if she doesn't want to.
February 20, 2009 at 1:09 PMPost a Comment