When He Refuses to Use It

You're feeling this guy and he is all things awesome in several ways, but there's just one caveat that he insists on doing: Doing it. In the sack. Bareback.
Now, certainly in its place, bare is fair, but today with women and men jumping fences quicker than a dog with mange and diseases flying all through the air nstuff? With pestilence at an all-time high and health care at a crisis, is it wise?
What to do when he refuses to wrap it up?
Well, some may feel that they owe a long, drawn-out explanation that delves into "beliefs" and "theorys" and "how I waa raised" and all that.
And to all that, i say, phooey!
Get ghost. Tell him despite the good and true "feeling" i gives and all that, you're quite comfortable living life in good health.
This is not to say that he may be carrying (well, he might, but so may you) but the fact of the matter is, both of you should be protected from each other.
Anything else, is just uncivilized.

Heavy Petting on the 1st Date: Cool or Fool?

I gots to have it: That may be your mindframe when you first see a person or meet someone of interest initially.
When people go out on a date or get together for the first time, it's basically an interview. You can kick the tires, so to speak, but no test-driving.
But what happens when the touching goes too far, too quickly?
Hormones freak out, neurons connect to those familiar pleasure points in the brain; all those electronic signals the brain sends to the body can make things hot and heavy in the course of one night.
But is heavy petting cool on the first date? Obviously, we all know where it can lead and you (and/or the other person may not be up for that so quickly).
Then again, what's wrong with a little affection, right?
Heavy petting on Date No. 1: Cool or fool?

Does He Just Have to Have It?

In Spike Lee's big-screen debut, "She's Got to Have It," Nola Darling was documented scoring three admirers with her trademark charm and sass.
Along with the theme of the film -- the lengths people go to to find love -- was the very obvious subplot, that some people are simply sex maniacs.

But how would you know today if someone was exhibiting signs of said sex mania?
If they want it "morning, noon and night" and "in the eee'nin" as Jodeci once sang?
If they are reckless with it, demanding PDA at every turn?
If normal things like, say, passing cars, or pedestrians don't seem to mean anything to him or tamp down his lustful tendencies then ... well, you just might have yourself an addict on your hands (Sorry to some, you aint that irresistible).
Is it normal to always want it? Or is it cool to sometimes take a raincheck due to fatigue, I dunno, work, or church?
At first it may seem cute but when does it get a bit creepy?
Or does it?

The Difference Between Sex and Intimacy

Well, do you know?
Do you know the difference between sex and intimacy?
One can entail the other, but do you know when each -- and not the other -- is required?
Do you rush into the brute, peripheral act without the gradual, learned process of teaching each other how to be intimate first?
Before you learned big words like "intercourse," and "ejaculation," you -- probably being about 12 or 13 --- knew about sex, at least in its basic forms.
Sex had crept into your conversation with your peers and back then it was purely physical: the act.
Do you know that some people never learn more than that, even years later as an adult?
intimacy, while it can be learned, in many ways is an artform.
Do you know what it entails?
If so, count yourself fortunate, because alot of otherwise good men, and women, have. no. idea.
What's your definition of intimacy?

Safe Sex: Do You Insist?

Do you insist?
The both of you are hot and heavy, bodies are being pulled, tugged, rubbed upon, but do you insist ... on protection?
The numbers say, millions aren't.
STDs are on the rise, according to a new study.
A record 1.1 million cases of chlamydia were reported in 2007 with doctors saying the numbers reflect better testing, not necessarily more people infected.
The stats show an overall increase in STDs as more people choose to ignore safety for pleasure.
Syphilis, which was on the brink of elimination just 10 years ago, rose modestly.
Gonorrhea held steady. So, what does all this mean?
It means be careful as heck.
According to the latest statistical data:

In the U.S. 4.3 million people have chlamydia.
For gonorrhea, it's more than 800,000.
For herpes, one in four U.S. adults.
It means things are getting scary out there.